Emma: I’ve been married 11 years. I don’t want to jump into bed anymore.

Dr. Holly: If you want your marriage to continue, then you’re going to have to change that, because sexuality is an important part of an intimate relationship.

Emma: How can I change?

Dr. Holly: Change the dynamic. Change your attitude through your behavior. Is there any romance anymore, or is it strictly sex?

Emma: It seems like since the children were born, everything gets in the way. There’s no more romance.

Dr. Holly: Well, you must work with your husband and inject romance back into the bedroom because sex and romance (in a healthy relationship) are intertwined.

Emma: I think that would help.

Dr. Holly: Express yourself truthfully in terms of your sexuality. If you want more romance, then ask for it. Many people run from their sexuality because they are not comfortable with their bodies. Own who you are, ask for what you want and the rest comes. Sexuality is in harmony with intimacy in any relationship. Become intimate through communication and a sharing of your inner life and your sexuality will flourish.