Lisa: My husband is cheating. I thought we had a good relationship, but I feel betrayed. We have great sex!

Dr. Holly: Affairs are rarely about sex. They’re often a cry for help. In our culture, infidelity is the breaking of a mutual agreed upon contract…but it’s also a betrayal of the self. A self that is too frightened to confront what needs to be faced.

Lisa: But I can’t stand the thought of being with him anymore.

Dr. Holly: I don’t blame you. I understand you’re angry and you’re going to have to express it to him in a safe setting.

Lisa: I have no compassion for him right now.

Dr. Holly: Then you must practice self-care. Try to understand that his infidelity is an avoidance of a deeper issue - - a detour around a damaged part of himself and a distraction from doing the necessary work to become whole. And one of the paths to wholeness is for both of you to try couples counseling